Title Change

Yes, there is yet another title change.  I am taking the Happiness Spotter to its own blog.  This blog will focus on any non-fiction that HS will not cover, although there may be some cross-posting from time to time too.  Please bear with me as I make this change--and others--to my blogs.

I am officially a Freelance Writer

The other day, I joined up at a couple of content writing sites and submitted my first article on July 31st to Associated Content.  I received an offer on my article yesterday August 6.  I'm so happy!  I'm officially a freelance writer.  The perfect solution to anger or bitterness, is success in a new venture.  Especially one you love.

To find out more about the site I am talking about click on the picture below.



   

How to Recover your Creativity when Unemployed, Day 19

Getting past your anger
Once the shock wears off, there is another emotion to combat that may take even longer to purge.

Anger.

Anger is draining and wasteful.  It puts you on the defensive and keeps you stuck in place, in the past, when you need to move on, move forward.  It is, in essence, an emotional--im-motional--block.  So, you have to find a way to get past your anger in healthful and positive ways and you need to include it your creativity recovery plan. 

Start by brainstorming interesting methods that engage your enthusiasm and pick one from your list.  The more you put into the method, the sooner the fire behind your anger will be guttering--and before long, put out entirely.

Some suggestions are:

• Exercise.  Take a walk by yourself or with a dog who will appreciate the attention.
• Write.  Writing can take any form as long as it releases your negativity instead of winding you up.  In fact, try something new just for the heck of it. 
• Find a new hobby.  Try out something you were interested in before.  You might really enjoy it.
• Educate yourself.  The best time to learn a new skill is when you are unemployed.  It shows industry and intelligence and will help you on your career path.
• Volunteer.  Besides looking good on a resume, volunteering gives back to your community.  And helpfulness always breeds good karma.

 
While you'll start seeing immediate benefits by this tactic, keep in mind that anger is a volatile emotion.  It can change form into bitterness, or reignite when you least expect it.  So, anger management is a long term part of your recovery plan, but with time and effort soon it will just be pages in your notebook and nothing more.  Try it yourself and let me know how it goes.

How to Recover your Creativity when Unemployed (Day 2)

Let's face it, being unemployed is hard. For creative folk it can bottle up your lifeline entirely. I know. I am there now. In fact, this is the second day of my unemployment and I am still so full of frustration and anger and at the same time so full of desire and need to use this time further my writing goals. But all I can do is feel.

So, what is the solution? To start simple. There is a lot going on. Everything is chaos, out of control. So take control by beginning with a form of control.

Create a plan. A plan to become more creative.

This plan will be unique to you and will not be built in one day, but the path to recovery begins with a single step. The recovery plan is your anchor in the storm.

My start, my plan, is this very series. While healing myself and blogging about my road to recovery, I hope to help others in the same boat. It is all we can do. Take it one day at a time. Starting now.

Try it yourself and let me know how it goes.

New Blog

This blog used to a be a part of my old blog.  The title came from part of my Motivation Monday posts.

Why did I move?  The old blog felt too cluttered.  This way I can focus my writing tips and motivations in one place, my fiction in another place, and my somewhat personal writing experiments and my speech disorder blog elsewhere entirely.


I have copied over some old posts, but I hope to start new content before too long.  Thanks for your patience.

You Are Never Too Old For Snow Days

You Are Never Too Old For Snow Days

Do you remember how excited you got when school was cancelled due to snow?  No school, no homework, plenty of fun, and snow!  Well, last month I had a snow day, literally and metaphorically.  You see, lately my job has required a lot of overtime.  I clocked about 15 hours per week in January, and this schedule will not change much for the next few months.  Overtime had become routine, until one day late in January I had a Saturday off.  Not because I got snowed in, not because I got caught up on my work, but because the computer program I use was down.  That really put things in perspective.  When all you see is what you have left to do, you never get a chance to see what you have done.  How stressful!

So what did I do?  Well, that is where the coincidental snow comes in.  The last time I had fun in the snow was not long before I was hired, about a year ago.  On that day, my young cousin, my mother, and I all got together and built a giant "snow worm", our most creative and memorable snow-day ever.  The snow wasn't deep enough this time, but you know what?  We got together that weekend.   We played in the snow anyway.  I took pictures.  I had fun.  And I didn't do a lick of work, writing or otherwise, that weekend.  Because I called in a snow-day.

How wasteful, right?  Nothing had been done on my work or my writing, and things needed to be done.  There are so many pages left to write on my Victorianesque vampire novel.  There is so much paperwork left to process and sort through at my job.  "So many".  "So much."  And all negative.  My perspective was dangerously narrow and it took a day off to remove the blinders.    After all, "so much" may be left to do, but "so much" had been accomplished--and I had forgotten until I had a day off.  Now I remembered that while there may be so much left to write on my novel, I had developed so many exciting ideas on so many areas on that series.  And while there may be so much work to do at my job, I had processed so many requirements and as a result so many parts were being made or in the process thereof.  Not wasteful at all!
 
When we were children, the snow-day itself was the reward.  But as writers we can use that day to get excited about all we have done and become motivated about our day-to-day routine again.  So whether time finds you or better yet you find the time, take a long break and do something unrelated to writing that you really want to do.  And do it.  Watch a movie.  Take a walk.  Read a book.  Listen to music while soaking in the tub.  Just don't fill this time with chores to do or extra time at work.  Rather, go play in the snow.  Writers need snow-days too.

REVEILLE

The same thing that happened to me can happen in any writer's life.  Are you busy writing toward a goal that you don't think you can reach?  Is the only thing you can see is how much work is left to do?  Well, Bonnie Goldberg, in her book Beyond the Words, has some good advice on that topic.  She says, "[S]ometimes for all the good reasons there are to write daily, there as many equally good reasons not to write daily. [...] Not writing allows time for percolation to take place, gives your creativity time to replenish, and gives you the distance from your writing to gain perspective on it."  The thing is, it shouldn't take circumstances beyond your control to give you the chance to do just that in your life.  Don't wait for the snow to call in a snow-day.

Need some suggestions on how to do just that?  Click here.

THE FUTURE IS NOT NOW

THE FUTURE IS NOT NOW

Christian motivational speaker, Joel Osteen, had an interesting sermon on Jan 24.  Don't name your future by the bad or unwanted circumstances of your present.  In the week since that sermon, that message has really hit home.  You see, I recently started a fantasy writing critique or "crit" group and posted a piece for review.  And I got crits, ones that reminded me of why I have a love/hate relationship with crit groups.  It never fails, where ever I go, I receive crits about a lack of clarity on basic prose.  I receive crits on sentences that are weird.  I receive crits on convoluted sentence structures.  I receive crits that readers cannot understand what I wrote. 

Before last week, I couldn't understand why my writing didn't make sense to others, when it did to me.  Before last week, I thought my unusual sentences was my style.  Before last week, I knew it was a problem, but not why can't ever fix it.  Then, in that week that followed Joel Osteen's Sunday sermon, I listened to another podcast I had downloaded and on it a comment came up about a guest speaker, a writer, having a writing style similar to how she speaks, and something finally clicked:  people often write how they speak. 

You see, I have uncommon speech disorder.  As a two or three year old, I was told that I "spoke too fast".  The disorder was not named and it was masked by a more obvious disorder in which I could only say about 30% of my letters.  Speech classes fixed that obvious speech disorder; the other went unchecked.  Until now. 

I discovered what I have through online research.  It is called cluttering, a fluency disorder, and the best description of it comes from Wikipedia:

"It feels like 1) about twenty thoughts explode on my mind all at once, and I need to express them all, 2) that when I'm trying to make a point, that I just remembered something that I was supposed to say, so the person can understand, and I need to interrupt myself to say something that I should have said before, and 3) that I need to constantly revise the sentences that I'm working on, to get it out right."

Cluttering affects writing abilities.  Cluttering affects reading abilities.  Cluttering affects listening abilities.  And most people don't realize they have a problem at all; others around them do. 

Now, I am aware of the problem and I am aware that it affects many aspects of communication.  But that is not the only thing I discovered.  You see, currently my writing is defined by this disorder, but in the future, it doesn't have to be.  Currently, I am defined by this disorder, but in the future, I don't have to be.  My past experiences with speech disorders proves this.  My ability to write nonfiction that is readable proves this.  That is what I discovered through Joel Osteen's message.  Don't decide what your future will be by what is happening now.  I have the knowledge of what is wrong, and I have the will to find ways to fix it and change my future.  Starting now.  How about you?

REVEILLE

Every writer has some obstacle that is present now.  Perhaps it is the economy, and no one is buying.  Perhaps there is some imperfection in your writing that is holding you back.  Perhaps you have the will to write, but no time.  Perhaps you have the desire, but the words won't come.  But that is all happening "now".  What are you doing to make sure that is not your future?  Need some tips?  To check out the companion piece to this blog post, click here.

POST NOTE: 

It is such a relief to discover what is wrong so you may begin fixing it.  Since I "came out", the thing I have been most inspired to do is start a community for writers with disabilities.  And I did it.  Right now it is just me and a blog, just me and my journey to improve my communication abilities and stay motivated.  Who knows, this community may continue to consist of just me, and that is ok.  If I can help even one reader of that blog feel better about his own disability and how it affects his writing dreams, then I have reached my goal.  But I invite others to join and become "authors" on that blog, and if that happens, who knows how many people we can reach.  Please check it out by clicking here.